We argue about house work, he thinks that he works harder than l do, and when he gets home he should be able to do nothing. Most weeks l work part time and thats ok, l do every thing. But on the weeks that l work full time he still thinks that he works harder and won't do any thing to help.

Hi All,
I do not ask for much help around the house.........perhaps that is my problem. There are only simple requests I make. Like, if I have washed the dishes, it is "please come and wipe them".......I am told "NO", and that is by my husband....not a teenager. He is a builder, yet my house is in such disrepair, people think it is a great joke and it just about reduces me to tears when they have a laugh about it. I work part time, normally evening, so of a morning I am up doing housework, often cook an evening meal, go to work, come home at nine thirty or eleven thirty and dishes are still on the sink.......clothes never taken off the line, I have to mow lawns, clean up around the place, put garbage out......anyone have ideas as to how to get another to shift??  Or is it really past time of hoping. I sort of think where there is life there is hope!!!

Jill I sympathise with your dilemma. Sounds like you need to visit out of town for a week or two say nothing about the mess - use a compassionate excuse. See what happens - if the place is a mess when you get back, make him pay for a housekeeper - you are an equal partner in your relationship - not his maid! (Otherwise just leave his stuff where it drops, and ask his mother to have a word with him)

I hear you there! My man is always away with business and he is tired and stressed when he gets back all the time so we never sort any issues out because we end up fighting or just not talking about what matters and now after 8 1/2 years together I don't think I can take it anymore as we have become like strangers.